In my entire life, i've been told by many people that, "you have changed" or "you really change that much, how can?" and It happened back in my teen life every i met again with my friends that i haven't met for a while. At least until not long ago
In early 2022, i met my one of my
bestfriend of my life. Lately we haven't talk to each other like for months.
Since our university go differently and we got to work in different city,
there's no reason for us to talk anymore
Many people said to me that, "you
must not have a reason to talk to me! Just hit me on text and we can talk like
we used too". The fact, it will not going to work well. Nowdays, we must
have a reason to talk to someone. Simplified that problem is wasting energy of
ours, admit it.
I used to faced this kind of situations
more than any other. Because i like to meet people and talk anything with them.
But still, for people that used to meet people frequently, It's heavy to build
a topic and conversation with a person that already long gone. All we can do is remembering past,
the memories of ours. Talking about hobbies, school memories, funny moments,
etc. And in a blink of an eye, it already spent many of times.
Until i realized, that my bestfriend wasn't
changed. At all.
She still the
same person that i knew very well
The only things
that changed from her was the appearance, but the core was forever not.
It reflects on
me that we used to think that everyone was changing.
But in my case,
maybe as the time passes by, im the only one who changing.
We think that
everyone was changing so we tend to not reach them anymore.
I dont know why
but i felt relieved at that time. Thousand times much better when i recognized that she still the same person that i used to know. And maybe it will works if
i connect with all my bestfriends in the past.
My statement is completely bias. But for the case you feel your bestfriend is changing, think twice.
Because once you met her/him, you will realized that no one ever really
change.
